12 Ways to Wait on God Before You're a Wife

I’m a 24-year-old woman who is waiting for God’s love story to unfold, and I’m positive I’m not the only one who is struggling with waiting for God’s best. Maybe you’re older than me or maybe you’re younger; maybe you’re waiting on a spouse or on a child or on a job. Regardless, I’m learning that the truth remains: God will never withhold something or something that is meant for you.

As a single woman, this waiting for me involves waiting for that someone. Sometimes, God has us in a waiting season for His best because He wants us to be molded into the person that we need to be before someone can tag along for the ride. Sometimes, we need to learn something from this season of singleness. Am I slow to be angry? Am I patient? Am I content in all circumstances? Do I truly love everyone? Maybe this season is a time to prepare our hearts and to become more like Christ before someone can enter into the scene. Sometimes, God has us waiting because, though we may be ready, our future significant others are not ready yet.

The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.
— 2 Peter 3:9

The season of singleness and waiting is the perfect time to prepare to be an excellent wife or husband, to become someone who is fit for our future spouse. Wouldn’t it be difficult to step into a season that we are not emotionally, mentally, or spiritually prepared for? Now is the time to understand what it means to wait on God’s best. Even if it may feel irritating as it doesn’t exactly fit toward our time-tables, God’s timing is everything as we wait on Him.

Ladies, how can we prepare ourselves to be an excellent wife?

  • Find joy that is not based off whether or not a man is in your life.

  • Be content in all circumstances: “Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am content.” – Philippians 4:11

  • Be patient: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” – Philippians 4:6. “But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.” – Romans 8:25

  • Spend time with the Lord. Let  your relationship with Him come first.

  • Be an encourager, not a Debbie Downer.

  • Learn to submit to the Lord, your leaders, and your pastors. “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage of you.” – Hebrews 13:17

  • Be disciplined. Are you disciplined in your work or in college?

  • Learn how to cook a meal, even if you burn it five times first. (Practice makes perfect – I promise... I’ve been there!)

  • Stop looking at Pinterest and designing your future wedding.

  • Stop envying other women who are in relationships, engaged, or married.

  • Gain confidence and know your self-worth.

  • Know who you are in Christ! “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” – 2 Corinthians 5:17. “Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.” – 1 John 4:4. “Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?” 1 Corinthians 3:16

He who finds a wife find a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
— Proverbs 18:22

Wherever you are in this season, regardless of how long you have been waiting – Always remember that God’s best will be worth the wait. Don’t fall into the temptation of settling for second best, you could miss out on the lessons God may be trying to teach you in the waiting. I promise you, God’s best is greater than what you can possibly imagine in this moment.

For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end – it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.
— Habakkuk 2:3